With the wedding three months away on Friday (where has all the time gone?!) planning is proceeding at breakneck speed. Bridesmaids dresses ordered last week, back to Oxford to meet with the florist for a walk through of the venue at the weekend, first dress fitting this Wednesday and on Friday the task was getting my invites printed. In my lunch hour, naturally...

Since the flower and catering (not to mention the wine) budgets are spiralling out of control I decided to save pennies by designing the invites myself. Simple, modern where could I go wrong? Well, firstly the wording.

Worried that she was doing things correctly the first thing my mother did when I got engaged is buy Debrett's Wedding Guide. And since then she alternates between 'Well it says in my Debrett's Wedding Guide...' and 'But I read in your Brides Wedding Planner...' - yes mother I know, I wrote it! Anyway.

So, sadly my father died a few years ago and so we have had many hours devoted to the whole 'how to word the invite' question. Traditionally you don't put dead people on invites (harsh but true - so it would never be 'The late Mr Hugh Kerr and Mrs Diane Kerr request...') but then Debretts say formally my mother should be 'Mrs Hugh Kerr requests...' or informally 'Diane Kerr requests...'. I designed the invite oblivious to this as 'Mrs Diane Kerr requests...'. Oh the agonising over this we had. In the end it was Debretts out, Mrs Diane Kerr in. In short, do what you or your family feel comfortable with.

Then it was a question of getting all the info in - my full name, Pete's full name, ceremony venue, time, date, reception venue, end time, RSVP info... all on one 'simple' A5 space.

I found some shortcuts - designing easy tick-box RSVP postcards (the back of which are pictured) cut the need for an extra address on the invite (plus, I hoping, sending them out stamped will spur on prompt RSVP-ing). Our wedding website link at the bottom cut the need completely to print a separate information card, slashing our printing costs.

Now, all that was left was a call to the printers. 'A simple bleed and cut job?' 'What gsm are you looking at?' 'We have to duplex over 350' 'How about a 350 Colourplan - take a look at the GF Smith book'

Aah! What was he talking about? Fortunately working in an industry where printing is part of the business it only took a few questions to our friendly production department (a bit of flapping bits of card by my ear) to sort.

So now all I have to wait is for my 350 gsm duplexed A5 and A6 proofs (see I'm mastering the lingo!) to come through and I can put a big shiny tick next to invites. Only, oh, about 20 other jobs left to do...94 days and counting!