A Letter To My Daughter On Her Wedding Day

A Letter To My Daughter On Her Wedding Day
A Letter To My Daughter On Her Wedding Day

When I got engaged, my mum was the first person I called. I was a ball of emotions and the only person who I knew would be able to feel somewhat similar was my mum. As the woman who has been in my life since the beginning, she can tell how I feel, and change how I feel, at any given moment. She can cheer me up, make me laugh, and push my buttons like no one else can.

The bond between a mother and daughter is a strong one, and one that can feel extra emotional when planning a wedding; a momentous occasion that signifies a new stage of life. To celebrate this bond and its vast emotions, we asked three mother of the brides (including my own) to write a letter to their daughter on their wedding day.  

Sue Burvill, who lives in Australia, to her engaged daughter Lauren, who lives in the UK

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My most precious daughter,

It is with mixed emotions that I write to you but like every milestone from when you were a baby I wanted to mark this wonderful event in the best way I know how.

The emotion is mixed because your life has, is and will be a long, long way away from me.  My loss. But watching you grow up and experience life and all its aspects: friendships, study, career, travel and boyfriends, I know that George is definitely a life partner.  I saw it from day 1 - the respect you have for him, the peace you feel in his company, the humour you share and the plans for your future.

You will one day understand that parents never stop seeing their children as beings they need to protect no matter what the age.  Being so far away, I am grateful for the solid, loving nature of your relationship with George and for the attentive, caring and adventurous man that George is (with an amazing tolerance of your brother's and my laugh). 

So on the eve of your wedding (big gulp) I reinforce to you what I always have - that I marvel at the woman you have become (despite my shortcomings) continue to be in am in awe of the differences between us and I am grateful for and hold on to with a mother's relentless grasp, the invisible connections we have that will persist no matter the distance.

As always you will make your wedding day your own - not a copy - meaningful for you and George and those who mean most to you.  Enjoy this celebration my gorgeous girl!

Every ounce of love


Toni Buckman to her engaged daughter Tessa

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To my lovely middle child

You have found your life partner and I am so happy for you.  Together you will face the challenges ahead with what I see as your main joint strengths…. Loyalty, Love and Laughter! 

Buying your first home, brings lots of challenges including agreeing on furniture, decorating, gardening, deciding who should do what jobs…..like keeping it tidy (not your forte) but luckily it is Adams.  Lots of opportunities to have fun and to laugh at mistakes.

Family…endless opportunities for laughter and love…your Dad and I have so very many happy memories and continue to laugh with and love our wonderful expanding family.

There will be amazing times and maybe difficult times but to have these strengths, which you both have, I believe you will have a great partnership and will have many, many happy memories and stories to tell.

Laughter, love and loyalty.


Natalie Davie and her baby daughter Celine

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Darling Cece,

At this moment in time, you've just turned 6 months old. You're too young to feed yourself, clothe yourself, or even move around on your own. It seems like your wedding day could be eons away. Light years. But I know that Time is a trickster, and before I know it, you'll be saying those precious vows, and I'll be wondering where the years have gone.

Your father and I are only in our third year of marriage, but we've been together for over a decade. In that time, we've learned some valuable lessons about what giving yourself wholly to another person means. I'm sure that, at this moment, you'll be thinking of yourself as fully fledged and ready to launch into the next phase of your life. But before you jump, indulge me while I pass on a little advice to you.

In the run up to your wedding, you two have been preparing to go through some serious changes. Change is exciting, but it does sometimes come with a small caveat - it can be hard on a relationship, especially if it comes with a lot of upheaval for either one of you. When new boundaries are drawn, you need to work together to find out how your marriage will fit within them, which can be hard work.

Change is not necessarily a bad thing - but managing it is a case of balance. Sometimes your own changes take priority, and sometimes you have to take the back seat to help the other person achieve their goals. Remember that there is room for the two of you. Be patient, be supportive while you wait, and your turn will come back around. You'll achieve so much more when you're pulling towards the same goal together.

The one thing that surprised us the most about getting married was how it magically made a lot of our bickering disappear. I'm not really sure why, nothing had really changed in our day to day - we had already been living together for several years. We rarely argue now. But if we do, it'll be about something that we've neglected to talk about, something that's built up over time. Usually something that doesn't seem important enough to talk about at the time. In the midst of an argument though, it can become a weapon to throw at the other person. I don't need to tell you this really, I'm sure you've already been there in your relationship. Marriage isn't a magical sticking plaster - communication is still key. It's better to have a sensible chat, than to let feelings fester and come out all wrong in the heat of the moment. You have more at stake now - keep talking to one another. 

The last - and best! - lesson I want to pass on is that you never stop learning about one another. On your wedding day, you enter into a solemn covenant with your soulmate, in full knowledge that you know and trust the other person enough to dedicate the rest of your life to them. But there are so many more things you have yet to learn; experiences that you have yet to go through that will give you that little bit more insight into the other person's heart. I hope you'll continue to be surprised by one another. 

I love you more than words can express, and we'll always be here for you both, whenever you need us (and even if you don't). The biggest amount of love and luck to the two of you today.

All my love,




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It's a moment that'll change your life. In the few seconds it takes to ask someone to marry you (or be asked), everything sort of starts afresh. You're no longer 'single', but betrothed; you're ready to make a statement to your friends, family, the world, but most importantly, to each other, that you plan to spend the rest of your lives together.

The proposal should be as memorable as the wedding day itself. And as worthy of celebrating! In fact, in some ways, the proposal can be more important. It's just between the two of you: a private declaration of love. It deserves to be special.

Click through the gallery to find some truly unique ways to propose to your partner. The only restriction is your imagination!


How to maintain your friendships while planning a wedding

How to maintain your friendships while planning a wedding

From bridesmaid dramas to jealous besties, planning a wedding can not only be stressful on your relationship with your fiancé, but also on your close friendships. Take it from talented blogger Lily Pebbles, who after  marrying a few years ago, has recently written a book dedicated to her friendships called 'The F WORD.' 

Having read the book, loved and identified with so much of it, I quizzed Lily on her tips and advice on how to maintain your friendships while planning a wedding.

What tips do you have for women planning their weddings right now?

- Always remember why you're getting married and that it's meant to be a celebration, a happy occasion! It's not worth arguing or getting stressed over. 

- Stick to your gut and do what you as a couple want to do. There are no rules, yes there are traditions but you're allowed to pick and choose what feels right for you. 

- Yes, it can all be in the details but trust me, on the day you won't care or think about the details! 

- Take your time to eat the food, you'll regret it if you don't 

- Spend as much time on the day feeling in the moment, soaking up at the atmosphere and enjoying time with the people you care most about. Let the photos capture the memories and not prevent them from happening. 

Do you think your friendships changed when you got married?

I think as a couple we changed slightly, becoming more of a team, but that didn't affect my friendships. My husband and I were together for seven years before marrying so my friends were already close with him and nothing changed. 

What did you do to try and maintain your friendships while you were planning your wedding? 

I knew pretty early on that I wasn't going to have bridesmaids, which I think sounds strange considering I'm so obsessed with my female friends. I just wanted them to have the best time and to me that meant wearing whatever they wanted to wear and feeling completely at ease and relaxed on the day, without any jobs to worry about.

So because of this I wanted to make sure that they still knew how important they were to me and I did this by writing them all handwritten notes as soon as I got engaged. They were personal to each friend, reminiscing on why our friendships was so important to me and I think it was just a nice way for them to know that they're important to me.

I was also really open about my wedding plans to make them feel included, I showed them my dress if they wanted to see it, talked about the food and venue… it wasn't all a huge secret. 

What advice do you have for other women who are getting married and struggling to maintain their friendships?

I think if you're the one getting married then you need to make the effort to make your friends not feel like you've moved on without them. Sure, things might change, but bring them along for the ride, make them feel included and don't let your wedding consume everything you do. It's important not to let yourself get lost in your own bubble and to show an interest in what your friends are getting up to as well, even if it doesn't feel as important.  

What are your tips for avoiding bridesmaid or hen party dramas? 

They're pretty hard to avoid because during such a special time there are a lot of emotions flying around and a lot of people who care, a lot. You kind of need to accept that there will be dramas but how you deal with them will matter the most! 

- If there's conflict, think about how you would feel in the situation. Do to others what you would expect back. 

- Remember that everyone will have a different relationship with the bride and will know them in a different way. Celebrate that, don't compete. 

- Don't have too many people planning the hen, 3 or 4 is a good number. 

- Don't make it about yourself, now is the time to be a selfless friend. 

What's the best advice a friend gave you when you got married?

Take a moment on the day, probably later into the night, to step back with your new husband and look out at all your guests having a good time. And just take a mental picture of that moment. 

The F WORD: A Personal Exploration of Modern Female Friendship by Lily Pebbles is published by Hodder & Stoughton, £16.99, available from 8th March.



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