I am getting married next month and would appreciate hearing your opinion regarding my problem. My mother died nearly 13 years ago and my father has been with with his girlfriend for 12 years. The thing is, that I don't want her to sit at the top table, in the place where my mother should have sat and I have told my father so. I have now been told that she doesn't want to come to the wedding. (I did suggest to my father that they could both sit at another table; I just didn't want her on the top table). My father was a bit upset about this but neither did he want to sit on a different table.

4 Claire, Brixham

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  • Well you could always have a top table with just you two newlyweds? or I noticed at our venue there was an option to have a round table and then it is not so obvious where people should sit and the 'important' people on the top table. We are getting married on 7th July and my son is giving me away so he is sitting where my dad should and my mum and dad are sitting next to each other at the end of the top table and it hasn't really been discussed where they will sit as they will just follow our plan! You should do what you wish - your mum will be there smiling over you whereever anyone sits ... Whatever happens you are marrying the man of your dreams hopefully and it doesn't really matter... x Jo

    • jowiz
    • 20 June 2012
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  • Very sorry to hear you are having this problem when you should be enjoying organizing your special day. I am sure it will all turn out ok in the end, you may need to just move a few guests around a bit. Hope you have a lovely day!

    • Becki
    • 22 June 2012
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  • U know it's hard I have the same situation. But to be honest I just thought to myself what does it matter where people sit. Really? I am lighting a candle for my mum to sit with me and as long as everyone else is smiling they can sit where they like. I know it's emotional just try and remember why you are there- your getting married to the live of your life x

  • Your stepmother should understand that not having your mother there on the day is very painful for you and therefore she should stop being so insensitive to your wishes.

    • Holly
    • 18 June 2013
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