I am getting married next month and would appreciate hearing your opinion regarding my problem. My mother died nearly 13 years ago and my father has been with with his girlfriend for 12 years. The thing is, that I don't want her to sit at the top table, in the place where my mother should have sat and I have told my father so. I have now been told that she doesn't want to come to the wedding. (I did suggest to my father that they could both sit at another table; I just didn't want her on the top table). My father was a bit upset about this but neither did he want to sit on a different table.