You asked: "Can we ask for money instead of gifts?"

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Debrett's Wedding Guide editor Jo Bryant says: "Asking for money on your gift list is now commonplace, but it should be handled carefully.

"Guest must feel as if they are giving money towards something worthwhile. Many travel agents allow guests to put money towards a couple's dream honeymoon, and some offer lists of 'experiences' they can buy, such as a romantic meal."

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