Wedding Thank You Card Wording And Advice

Wedding Thank You Card Wording And Advice

Wedding thank you cards may not be the most fun part about getting married, but they are an essential task you should have on your to-do list. So once you've tied the knot, enjoyed the honeymoon and opened your gifts, here's everything you need to know about thanking your guests.

Invest in stationery

Even if you sent paperless invitations, it's important to mail thank you cards to all of your guests, to show you have gone that extra effort to thank them. To get you in the mood, be sure to buy nice stationery and pens. Most wedding stationery designs will offer matching invitations and thank you cards. Alternatively, it can be a nice keepsake to have a photo from the wedding on the card (see image). 

Hand-write your notes

It can take you a long time, and yes your hand may get sore, but it's not often people hand-write notes anymore, which gives your thank you notes extra meaning. People will really appreciate the time and effort you took to write them.

Keep track of which guests gifted you what 

The last thing you want to do is spend time thanking your uncle for the gift that your colleague actually gave you. To keep track, we recommend writing down (or better yet, keeping a spreadsheet) of all the gifts you receive, when you received them, who they are from and their postal addresses. This part of the wedding thank you card admin may take you the longest so it's good to try and sort it in advance.  

Don't wait to send them

Top wedding experts recommend sending your wedding thank you cards out no later than three months after receiving your wedding gifts. To make sure you stay on top of them though, it's best to write them soon after you receive them, this way you avoid having your thank you card wedmin pile up, or worse, completely forget to send them at all.

Personalize each card

To avoid repetition (and preserve your sanity), each thank you card should be unique to each guest and reflect the relationship you have with them. Make sure to thank them for their gift by specifically mentioning the gift and what it means to you. If a guest has given you money, talk about how you plan on spending it. Also don't forget to thank them for attending your wedding - their presence is a present in itself.

Keep them short

Thank you cards don't have to run through every detail of the wedding, nor waffle on about the gift received or honeymoon taken. Instead, keep them short, sharp and personal.

Share the work load

There may be someone in the marriage that has neater hand-writing than the other, but don't let that mean they're the sole thank you card writer. Sharing the task will ensure everything gets done faster.  

Don't forget your wedding party

In case you haven't already, you'll want to make sure you send extra-special thank you cards to your wedding party including your bridesmaids, groomsmen, ushers, parents and your officiants.

Wedding thank you card wording examples

Sample 1: Gift from close family member 

Dear Susan and John

Thank you so much for coming to our wedding, and for the beautiful Champagne flutes you gave us. This is our first set of grown-up glassware, which as I'm sure you know, we will make great use of it when we host dinner parties.

We would love to have you over to try them out soon.

Lots of love

Claire and Ben

Sample 2: Money gift from close friends

Dear Megan and Simon

It was so lovely to see you at our wedding. We cannot thank you enough for flying all that way to see us. And even though your presence was enough, we really appreciate your gift as well. We will be sure to put it towards our up-coming holidays where we'll hopefully be able to come visit you soon.

Much love

Claire and Ben

Sample 3: Group gift from friends 

Dear Charles

We hope you had a great time at the wedding. It was so much fun dancing with you till the wee hours. Thank you so much for the restaurant voucher. You, Tony and Katie clearly know us and our stomachs very well.

Best wishes

Claire and Ben



Non Traditional Mother Of The Bride Outfits

Non Traditional Mother Of The Bride Outfits
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If you're a modern mum - or the daughter of one - you may know the struggle to find a mother-of-the-bride outfit that ticks all the boxes a little too well. It's got to be stylish, flattering and glamorous, but still age-appropriate and classic. Like it or not, fashion has moved on significantly from that 80's taffeta skirt suit and elaborate hat combo. And, there's no reason why women of <i>every</i> age can't look and feel stylish while shopping their special occasion outfit. Take inspiration from red carpet icons Helen Mirren, Cate Blanchet and Diane Keaton - note, there's not a skirt suit in sight. Instead, gorgeous dresses, modern jumpsuits and trouser suits look fabulous. So, to break away from the traditional outfits of old, we've got some stylish picks that are suitable for women of any age, wanting to look fabulous on their daughter's big day.



Mother of the Bride Duties Explained

Mother of the Bride Duties Explained

You knew this day would come. Your little girl is all grown up and getting married, which means you now get to play the role of mother of the bride. Whether you're keen to be involved in every wedding planning detail, or prefer to play more of a supportive role throughout the process, there are a few duties that every mother of the bride should take part in.

Be a helping hand and cheerleader throughout

From finding the right wedding venue to the perfect dress, to even the best items to have on the wedding gift registry, your daughter will need your help and motherly advice throughout the wedding planning. No one will be able to reassure her like you, nor will anyone be able to tell her when she might be turning into a bridezilla, quite like you.  

Be the go-to contact for wedding suppliers

If you're paying for the wedding, or the wedding venue is near you (and the bride is not), you may be expected to help organize all of the suppliers from the florist to the caterers, entertainers and more. To ensure it goes smoothly, make sure to get all of the contact details from your daughter as soon as possible. And consult our month-by-month wedding planner guide for our best tips.  

Research traditions and find family heirlooms

Traditionally, finding the bride 'something old, something new' is the responsibility of the mother of the bride. Similarly, if there's a family heirloom or tradition the bride would like incorporated into the day, it's your job to help make this happen.

Liaise with the mother of the groom

While your daughter organizes her bridal party, it's your job to liaise with the mother of the groom. Traditionally, the mother of the bride is meant to choose her wedding outfit and hat first, then notify the mother of the groom on what their wearing. This way both mothers can ensure their outfits are in sync and avoid any clashing colours or fashion faux pas.

Play hostess on the day

While it may be your daughter's big day, as mother of the bride it's also, in a way, your day too. Traditionally, the mother and father of the bride are the hosts of the wedding, so on the day it's your job to welcome guests, ensure everyone is looked after and also to take care of the wedding gifts.

Remind her you love her

As exciting as planning a wedding can be, there will be times throughout the process when your daughter may end up feeling stressed, overwhelmed or needing to shoulder to cry on. At these times, just reminding her you love her, and that everything will be okay, can go a long way.



How To Grow Your Own Wedding Flowers

  • by Brides
  • 27 February 2018 2018-02-27T17:10:17+0
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It's Thursday evening, two days before our wedding. I'm sitting on the floor of the chapel at Ash Barton, Devon, with buckets of flowers carpeting the flagstones. I feel excited, but overwhelmed; there's serious work to be done.

Fast-forward two days and I'm in my dress - the dress. Everywhere I look: the bouquet in my hands; the wildflowers displayed down the aisle; the groomsmen's buttonholes; the blooms in the chapel; the flower chandelier in the barn; the arrangements on the sofreh aghd (a Persian wedding-ceremony table), there's an eye-watering reminder of the big team effort, the weeks of planning and the months of growing our own flowers.

It wasn't as if I'd always dreamt of growing my own, let alone doing a DIY wedding - it just sort of happened. From the outset, Tom and I knew we wanted a personal approach. We also wanted it to be just us: no caterers, bar staff, make-up artist, hair stylist or band (we partly catered ourselves and had Tom's cousins as DJs). Saving money was a bonus of wanting the personal touch, too.

Tom and I got engaged in April 2016 and decided to marry the following year, in September. While in Dorset celebrating our news with Tom's parents, Frances and Martin, we discussed our vision for the wedding. Frances mentioned that we could help ourselves to flowers from their garden, and that she could also grow some. Being a recently retired teacher and a lifelong keen gardener, she leapt at the task. We researched seasonal blooms and after much browsing, Frances suggested dahlias. I knew little of this flower - not even how to pronounce it (dah-lia? Day-lia? It's the latter, by the way). They come in all shapes and sizes, from tight pom-poms to blooms the size of your face, and the colour palettes are endless.

Once we worked out the size of the operation ahead, Frances contacted the school she used to work at and asked if she could borrow a small plot of their gardens so we could achieve the quantity of dahlias we wanted. (Her garden was already full of established plants that we were hoping to use, and at the time we only had a small balcony.)

Sarah Raven has one of the widest selections of dahlias, so we sourced our tubers from her website. I didn't have a colour scheme; I just knew I wanted different shades and shapes, so we ordered 10 varieties - Café Au Lait, Henriette and Blanc Y Verde, to name a few. We potted them and popped them in the greenhouse in early March (a kitchen windowsill would work, too). They sprouted the following month and we kept them there until any risk of frost had passed. In early May, they were planted outside and the first flower blossomed at the end of that month.

In spring, Tom and I moved to a home with a small garden, so we decided to grow daisy- like cosmos. It needs minimal attention and grows into great clouds of flowers.

Meanwhile, I took two of my bridesmaids with me to a workshop at East London florist Rebel Rebel. It was the perfect playground to experiment while in the safe hands of experts. We learned that we needed a lot of foliage and flowers: dahlias would be the stars of the show, but having other delicate varieties made them pop.

I found mood boards helpful for visualising the wild-posy look I wanted. Pinterest was an obvious tool, but I also took inspiration from books. Petalon is one of my favourite London florists, so I knew Florence Kennedy's Flowers Every Day would be the perfect how-to guide.

Anything we couldn't grow (we wanted more flowers  than we had space to produce ourselves), we bought from New Covent Garden Market. Tom and I picked bunches we liked the look of, instead of following a strict list: wispy Nigella, flouncy Veronica, berry like hypericum, plus fragrant herbs and stems such as variegated mint, geranium leaves and eucalyptus (we bought more than we needed in case of casualties).

In the West Country, Frances and Tom's sister Alice sourced more bright dahlias - Gerrie Hoek and Mrs Eileen - from Black Shed flower farm. It was hard to resist the pick-your own foxgloves and other specimens, so those made it into the van with the homegrown dahlias. 

When it comes to cutting your own, early morning or evening is better than daytime. We stripped the leaves on the lower stems, ensuring none were submerged in water, as this causes bacteria to reproduce. A drop of vinegar or bleach in the buckets also helped to prevent bacteria; Martin was tasked with this job, as well as delivering the precious cargo.

After a nerve-racking journey down the M5, fearing our months of work were perishing, we reached our destination. We immediately found the coolest, darkest spot on the estate - the chapel - and started the prep.

An army of friends and family began arriving on Friday - along with more dahlias from Tom's aunt and uncle, Margaret and Chris. Word had spread of  our floral adventure, so they brought some they'd grown on their allotment, as did Tom's eldest sister, Harriet,  and her husband, Darren.

When all the flowers were laid out, my Rebel Rebel training kicked in: they'd given me the excellent advice to pick stems I wanted for bouquets and buttonholes first, to ensure the most important arrangements used my favourite flowers. My bridesmaids put together their own bouquets, which was a lovely way for them to add their personality to the day.

As I had to flit about the barn, chapel and kitchen, I made sure Florence's book was open among the flowers to aid our helpers. We laboured until the evening on Friday, finishing the final bits on Saturday morning.

Most brides might say their wedding is the best day of their life - and it really is. But the team effort of a DIY wedding made it even more special for us, as we felt people were invested on a personal level and not just as a 'guest'. We were all proud of what we achieved together.

What did I learn from this optimistic floral feat? For one, it's not for everybody, especially not the time-poor. We were lucky enough to have Tom's hard-working and generous parents, as well as the mass of helpers over the weekend. Growing your own flowers doesn't have to be done on a huge scale, but however you do it, it doesn't get more personal or rewarding than this.

Words by Roxy Kavousi-Walker

Photographs by Alex Dimos and Nazarin Montag