Being a bridesmaid is harder than it seems, and if you are a bride-to-be, here are a few things you should consider when selecting your bridesmaids: As a bridesmaid... what I'd tell the bride: -Don't ask me to be a bridesmaid if you can't afford the expense, or if you have lots of sisters. I won't be offended, especially if you're honest from the start -Don't demand that I have a spray tan so all the bridesmaids match -Do take us to the high street for our dresses. There's so much out there and chances are we can wear them again. On that topic: don't make me wear lilac. It doesn't suit anyone. -Don't ask us to spend a hen weekend somewhere expensive. Think about us too - we might not be able to afford it and we'll only end up resenting you as a result. -We're here to help, so do delegate, but don't give us huge tasks like find a florist or booking a crèche service. Its undue pressure and we'll probably get it wrong.