Some years ago when I first came across the concept of a Wedding Gift List, I have to admit I thought it was crass, consumerist and unimaginative.
A strong reaction perhaps, but my qualms were as follows: Isn't having the price there a bit awkward? Doesn't it make the whole thing seem like a transaction? And shouldn't people be able to come up with a gift without being prodded?
More recently I heard a story about a bride who asked for cash gifts only, displaying a donation pot at the entrance to the venue, and sending the ushers around for further collections later in the night hoping a few drinks would further loosen purse strings. Then, before the night was out, said bride was discovered counting the loot in a back room, unable to wait until the guests had gone home.
This tale awakened in me a similar feeling as my first reaction to the gift list. Yet, I have a confession to make: as I type this one of the windows on my desktop is displaying a wonderful collection of goodies titled "Wish List" on Prezola.
Yes, after all that talk I'm sitting here making a gift list. I've submitting to the wonders of Prezola and only a few twinges of guilt remain, my prior objections lie muffled below oohs and aahs as I click from cashmere cushions to cake stands, coffee machines and Chinese table lamps.
But what is the etiquette when making a gift list? How high is too high and how low too low? Does anyone actually put £2.99 washing up cloths on there? And do others ask for several thousands of pounds worth of furniture? Is it okay to put jewelry on there (clearly just for me) or should it be strictly things for nest making?
I voiced my concerns to a friend who said: "Please do a gift list. I need all the help I can get. Otherwise I'll end up getting you a fondue set you'll never use…"
Okay, so that (along with the fact that I've now opened the Pandora's Box that is Prezola) means no going back. Guests still have the option of going off menu, after all, but in the meantime I better get back to my Wish List…