Fiona Kay, 30, married Adam Fenney, 30, at Upwaltham Barns in Petworth, Chichester, on 21st September, 2018. She says:
I had never heard of humanist weddings until I went to someone else's. As well as the fact that the couple was able to tailor-make their non-religious ceremony, it was as if the celebrant was an old friend of theirs and I loved that. In actual fact, I really didn’t like the idea of not knowing who was going to marry us, so it sealed the deal when I found out that one of my mum's friends is a humanist, Hazel Olde from Blissful Ceremonies. She even lives just down the road from us! Everything about it was perfect.
I'm not sure how we came to this, and it may sound odd, but 'light' became a key theme of our wedding. My vision was that we'd create something rustic but full of light and touches of foliage. Upwaltham Barns provided the perfect space for this. We covered it in fairy lights and made our table plan using bottles that contained twinkling LEDs, bought on Amazon. Our neon 'Happily Ever After' sign, hired from Love Inc., was a real focal point at the reception. We put it up behind the top table.
Everyone kept telling me that I should hire a local florist near the venue, but I noticed that they were pricey and didn't fall in love with any of them. In the end we worked with Sophie from The Bloomery, a florist near to my office that I always admire as I walk past! Sophie's attention to detail was fantastic. For example, I wanted Dahlias in my bouquet but they don’t last long without water, so she found and attached individual water tubes to ensure they wouldn’t wilt. She also stayed well beyond I expected her to making sure everything was perfect. Oh, and she lent me lots of candle holders, which was a huge help to our bank accounts.
Our colour palette included muted tones of cream and blush, along with greens and white. Our florist used Café au Lait dahlias and Quicksand and Cappucino roses in my bridal bouquet to tie in with the rest of the colours. We also incorporated a lot of foliage throughout the arrangements: eucalyptus, oak, olive and mimosa in my bouquet, asparagus fern and ruscus at the ceremony, foliage wrapped around the chandelier above the reception... I didn’t want the wedding to be overly feminine, so hints of pink were just enough.
Photographs by Murray Clarke