Who are youdressing for?
Anyone and everyone can influence your choice of wedding gown - the question is, are you even aware of it?
If you think your dream dress is just your decision, think again,says behavioural expert Kate Marlow - your gown (subconsciously at least) is never only down to you. Here she delves into the different bridal personality types and gives her ultimate tips to ensure that your dress is the right one for you.
are you dressing for…
Your personality You regularly update your Facebook photos and learned the art of posing for pictures at an early age. It would be easy to say that you love yourself, but you are actually highly self-critical.
Relationship history Your boyfriends have to match you in the vanity stakes but mustn't outshine you, so you've let a few go along the way who weren't up to the mark.
Your fiancé Do you look alike with similar features? It's probable that he's literally your other half. You adore that you knew he was the one because you both look just right together. You love joint-shopping and your home is a showcase of coordinated decor.
Your family Your parents' home is full of framed family photos. Super-close, you like celebrating together - marked with the obligatory group shots, of course.
Friendship network Your group of girlies all bear a striking resemblance to each other and you've mirrored each others' lifestyle choices. On your first day at primary school you made a beeline for the little girl who looked the most like you.
Your wedding planner style Simple - it's a family wedding; you all know what works and what looks good for a family party.
The dress It's not just about the gown - it's that you and your man are coordinated and look amazing, and that the bridesmaids perfectly complement you. You'll have shopped for your dress with your girls but your opinion and not theirs would have been final - it's YOUR day after all. And once you were sure it looked good fromeveryangle, you knew it was the one.
The entire congregation? Your personality You're a perfectionist who appears to be very comfortable being the centre of attention. Making an entrance is a way of life for you but it's all a show; underneath you're likely to lack confidence. Relationship history You have no trouble getting a man's interest, but finding one who understands your high standards means you've probably had a number of intense relationships. Your fiancé You two have probably been together on and off for some time and this may have tested his devotion. Your best times are when it's just the two of you as you don't have to put on a show behind closed doors. Your family They 'get' you - after all they were there when you were trying on your whole wardrobe before heading to the school disco. They know the real, vulnerable you. Friendship network You make friends easily as people are drawn to your charismatic personality, but only those who meet your high standards make it to your inner circle of true friends. Your wedding planner style Everything represents an aspect of you, and you have likely changed your mind thousands of times about the flowers, theme, style and decor - everyone has to think: perfect. The dress An absolute showstopper. You went dress shopping alone - you know you best - while keeping in mind how the crowd will receive it. Those who love you realise it's also something of a suit of armour for the little girl who puts on a front to the world.
Your personality Loyal and likeable, you're skilled at communicating your needs and a great listener, which makes you a strong team player - you didn't drop your friends when you moved in with your groom.
Relationship history It may have taken a while to find your groom as he had to be vetted by your friends and pass their test, too. It's not that men come second - it's just that your friends were there first.
Your fiancé He'll likely be part of a strong friendship group himself and there's a strong possibility a couple of your friends are in relationships with guys in his group.
Your family Growing up, everyone did their own thing and had their own interests - because you all feel comfortable and secure enough not to be in each others' pockets.
Friendship network Your best friends have been like sisters to you. You've partied and holidayed together, discussed dates and dreams - and, like theSex And The Cityladies, held each others' hands throughout.
Wedding planner style You like to canvass the opinions of all your friends, so there's been a lot of discussion and shopping - all together of course.
The dress Watch out for a bit of a 'dress to impress' theme creeping in - remember that in any group of girls there can be jealousy under the surface, however much you love each other. Tread carefully taking your mates to the changing rooms with you.
Your mother? Your personality Traditional, secure and a people-pleaser, your mum's your best friend and confidante. After all, she's been married to your dad forever; you admire and respect that.
Relationship history You've likely known your groom since school or university, and when you two got together he very quickly became part of the family.
Your fiancé You haven't spent any significant amount of time apart since the day you first kissed - why would you want to? You're a great team and probably have a kitchen calendar where everything's set out - shopping, meal-planning, budgeting - so you both know what you're doing on your journey of shared goals.
Your family You probably live geographically quite close to them, and your family network and support is where you feel most (literally) 'at home'.
Friendship network You have a great gang and are very sociable, but given the choice of shopping on a Saturday with your mum or a group of girlies, you'd choose mum - which is why you've taken her wedding dress shopping with you, right? Mainly because she's the one person you absolutely trust to give you an honest opinion
Wedding planner style It's a team effort and this is where your mother comes into her own - she's been imagining your wedding since the day you were born. If you feel at times she's taking over, speak up - although you do feel secure knowing everything's being taken care of for you.
The dress If your mother's dress fits you, (actually it was your grandmother's and she handed it down to your mother) then it's likely you'll be wearing it - or at least part of it, if the fabric's been reimagined or transformed into a more modern style - after all, it's been kept safely wrapped and stored in the loft waiting just for you!
Your personality Romantic, intimate and sensual, you enjoy sending your man 'I love you' texts in the middle of the day and cooking him cosy dinners. You feel that couples who play together stay together, so your gym membership is a joint one.
Relationship history Being in love is a serious business for you. You've possibly had one or two serious relationships, but are unlikely to have been a casual dater.
Your fiancé For you there was no slow burn - you met, fell in love, and now you're getting married. Mission accomplished.
Your family They're important to you, but you've always known your future is about you creating a family of your own.
Friendship network You value close friendships rather than being part of a large group of mates, probably preferring to hang out with two or three 'best girls' - people you've known since school or college. They know you inside out so you take great care to look out for them.
Your wedding planner style There's been a lot of joint decision-making as you've involved the groom in everything. You're a shrewd negotiator as you're used to compromising, so it's unlikely there have been tantrums; for you, it's an adventure.
The dress This is one decision you're just going to have to make without his opinion - it should be a surprise on the day. The challenge is to balance what you know he likes with your own dream gown. Don't lose your nerve and drop hints to check he'll like it - be brave!