In a world full of solitaire styles, writer and bride-to-be Lexxi Davis wanted to own a rock that was 100% her.
It's kind of important to love the one piece of jewellery you're going to be wearing EVERY day for the rest of your life, right? After being with my boyfriend for around three and bit years, I knew 'the question' was close to being popped. We'd moved in together after just 6 months dating, had always talked about getting married and I knew pretty much from day one he was The One. And, although he knows me better than anyone else, I just couldn't trust him to guess my style (who really can?). So before any proposal plans got into his head, I told him about how the ring thing was going to work. This is the story of how I designed my own engagement ring.
ENGAGEMENT PARTY IDEAS
The Initial Fear
I'm a typical Libra - fiercely independent, but crazy indecisive. Not a great combo when you're trying to describe the perfect piece of jewellery to your other half... So, rather than being terrified of opening a box containing a mystery stone, I bookmarked a rose gold and tiny diamond style from Monica Vinader and told him this is what I wanted, if he was going to ask to me to marry him. Then we would shop for the 'real one', together.
The down-on-one knee moment didn't come as a surprise, which I didn't really mind as at least I was prepared with nice nails! So after being presented with my stand-in-ring, (and a bucket loads of celebratory prosecco) we started to discuss what the actual ring would be like. (At this point, I had NO idea).
Deciding On Style
We booked in some appointments at jewellers to try on some styles and inevitably, I fell in love with a pinky-coloured pear shaped diamond ring by Jessica McCormack. A rare stone that was, of course, crazy expensive. I could have downsized the style to a slightly more affordable fee, but by this point I was really sold on having a 1ct diamond (minimum). To have the ring in the size I wanted was just in another realm of budget. When a friend's beautiful bespoke engagement ring came back from the jeweller, I was hell bent on designing my own ring.
A Pretty Price
The best option financially was to get an engagement ring made. I love the Jessica McCormack pear, but I also wanted a 1ct diamond and the two didn't add up. After chatting with my jeweller, she explained the different between old cut and new diamonds and I fell in love with the idea of an antique stone. This made the diamond harder to find, but all the most sweetly satisfying when we found The One. My fiancé even managed to haggle with the Hatton Garden pawnbroker.
From Stone To Ring
Once we had the actual diamond to work with (a 1.35ct pear shaped stone dating from 1915), we could start playing around with ideas - both on Pinterest and paper. Designing it with a jeweller made the whole process really special. From choosing the material and thickness of the band (I went for 1.8mm rose gold with platinum top), to getting through the technical drawings where I saw the shape take form for the first time, I loved every moment.
Making An Heirloom
It was really important to me that we created a piece of jewellery that could be passed down as an heirloom. We don't have any rocks in the family, so I wanted to create something special that wasn't just for me (ok mainly for me), and could be a nice jewel to give to future generations to come.
The Final Thing
I'm still waiting to be presented with the final piece, but I've tried on the nearly finished version and I cannot wait. It's been nearly a year since we got engaged and around 10 months since taking the first design steps, so excitement is an understatement. The finished ring will be given to Ben when it's ready, so hopefully this time I'll get a surprise proposal - but thankfully without the fear of wondering what the ring will look like.
Now all I need to do is plan the actual wedding. Oh, and design the wedding ring of course...